You Are Engaged - Now What?
What To Do Now That You Are Engaged
Article By Wes Linda
Okay gentlemen, you’ve asked her dad, found a ring, popped the question and she said yes. Now what do you do? Pick out flowers? Wedding invitations? Bridesmaids dresses? I don’t think so. Now is a time to support your bride, keep family and friends off her back, and help her plan. Sure, you get to pick out your underwear for the big day, but that’s about it. Well, on your own that is. Here is a list of things to do to make sure that you’re special day is as special as your love for your bride.
- She’s been planning this since she was three, she’s got a head start on you, I promise. Don’t fight it, just enjoy it. As you start selecting the major points of your ceremony and reception, find out before hand what she’s dreamed of, and find a few vendors that can make that wish come true. Yeah, you may not think red rose petals down the aisle is romantic, but she’ll never forget when you remember the little things and make sure the details are taken care of.
- Start early, help often. While it may not seem like your opinion is important sometimes, nothing could be farther from the truth. You bride-to-be wants your approval and wants to know how well she’s doing. So from the moment she says yes, start helping! Get on the phone to call friends, help pick a date, help pick a theme, and help collect information on prospective vendors. The more you help, the less she has to do, the less stress for all.
- Manage the families! Let your family know that all requests should come through you, you guys are a team and you want to help make sure everyone is on the same page and organized. One of the best rules you can implement is you deal with your family, she’s deals with hers. This will keep a lot less stress off of everyone’s backs.
- Make sure your groomsmen show up when they are supposed to, and take care of what they have to within the right time frames. Few things can bring more unneeded stress to a bride than a best man who hasn’t gotten fitted for his tuxedo a week before the wedding. It’s your job to make sure they get fitted for their tux’s, check their fit when the tux’s show up, and show up to rehearsal and the wedding on time. Oh yeah, don’t let the best man forget that ring either.
- While you don’t plan the bachelor party, don’t let it get out of control, don’t forget that this is a time to cherish the friendships you have, share this time with friends and celebrate a little. Don’t do anything that can get you thrown in jail, make getting up the next morning hard to do, or would make your future bride unsure about marrying you. Let your best man know up front what is and is not okay, and what your boundaries are.
- Wedding Day: It’s here, everyone has their tux, everyone is present, you’re all dressed up, and no where to go. First, do something special for your bride, send her a note in the morning to let her know how much you love her, and how special this day is to you. Once the ceremony starts, slow down and cherish this moment. It’s easy to be caught up and rush through everything and not remember a thing. Don’t let that happen on this special day of yours. When the wedding march starts, don’t do anything but look down that aisle for your bride. She’ll be the most beautiful woman in the room, and you don’t want to miss a second of this. This is the start of a special and new period in each of your lives and these memories mean so much.
So enjoy the process, focus on your bride-to-be, and have fun! Share the time with friends and family and don’t let a thing stand between you and her having the most wonderful days of your lives.